Many
a times when I see elderly couple holding hands while walking, wiping one another’s
mouth with a small tissue and keeping their heads together for support, it
brings tears to my eyes and I really wonder, will this dream of mine ever come
true, will I ever be able to be in such scene. This is absolute love. The purest
form of love with no other desires. A love that has no end and a love that does
not base itself off of circumstances. This is the love should be. This is the
dream each one of us dream of. But, too often we jump into a relationship based
on our instant feelings, instead of waiting to see who that person truly is. We
are just blinded and when the time shows the real face of the person, and we
are no longer capable of doing anything (that is what we presume) for the dream
which we once had. 
Being
“in love” and “loving” someone are two separate things. We tend to fall in love
too quickly. We believe we are in love, and we actually love the person’s
initial personality, appearance, behaviour(which is at the best initially) and
the areas of their life which match those written in our imaginary “want” list.
This list is our made, influenced by our environment, dreams and future
securities. Another term for falling in love is lust. Lust is not always
sexual. It is most of the time sexual for men. But for women, it means
companionship, thoughtfulness and security. And when a woman see these things
in a man, she falls in love with him. Falling in love is the best thing that can
happen to a person, but the same falling in love can have negative consequences
if we jump in too quickly. We all have experienced the person for whom we have
fallen in love, remains no longer the same after some time. And the truth is
even we do not remain the same. We are more matured, identify what we really
want in our life and understand the meaning of being in love. So it is always
better to be in love and move on than falling in love and never be able to get up
again. 
True
love is built over time. It does not happen overnight or even in couple of
months. Love grows with time and by overcoming the obstacles. And if does not
happen so, it is best to understand that there is no love. So most of us can
know whether there is love or no love between us within couple of years.so
there is no question in my mind now, that the couple I had seen once, would not
have faced challenges, would not have been through tough times. But what keeps
them together is that they fought the battles together, as a team. Ideally marriage
should last a lifetime, so we should choose our partner well and allow time to
prove who they truly are, only then a marriage can last. A close relationship,
no matter how hard the times may be, can never be moved. No third person can
intrude into the relationship if the relationship is strong, if both are in
love. But if they struggle to be in relationship just for the sake of it, it is
better to come out of the relationship and breathe some fresh air and move on. 
Now
it is very obvious that the elderly couple who touched me were more than
lovers. They were friends. Looks will fade, trials will come but a genuine
friendship will carry the love to the
end. 
Many
a times when I see elderly couple holding hands while walking, wiping one another’s
mouth with a small tissue and keeping their heads together for support, it
brings tears to my eyes and I really wonder, will this dream of mine ever come
true, will I ever be able to be in such scene. This is absolute love. The purest
form of love with no other desires. A love that has no end and a love that does
not base itself off of circumstances. This is the love should be. This is the
dream each one of us dream of. But, too often we jump into a relationship based
on our instant feelings, instead of waiting to see who that person truly is. We
are just blinded and when the time shows the real face of the person, and we
are no longer capable of doing anything (that is what we presume) for the dream
which we once had.
Being
“in love” and “loving” someone are two separate things. We tend to fall in love
too quickly. We believe we are in love, and we actually love the person’s
initial personality, appearance, behaviour(which is at the best initially) and
the areas of their life which match those written in our imaginary “want” list.
This list is our made, influenced by our environment, dreams and future
securities. Another term for falling in love is lust. Lust is not always
sexual. It is most of the time sexual for men. But for women, it means
companionship, thoughtfulness and security. And when a woman see these things
in a man, she falls in love with him. Falling in love is the best thing that can
happen to a person, but the same falling in love can have negative consequences
if we jump in too quickly. We all have experienced the person for whom we have
fallen in love, remains no longer the same after some time. And the truth is
even we do not remain the same. We are more matured, identify what we really
want in our life and understand the meaning of being in love. So it is always
better to be in love and move on than falling in love and never be able to get up
again.
True
love is built over time. It does not happen overnight or even in couple of
months. Love grows with time and by overcoming the obstacles. And if does not
happen so, it is best to understand that there is no love. So most of us can
know whether there is love or no love between us within couple of years.so
there is no question in my mind now, that the couple I had seen once, would not
have faced challenges, would not have been through tough times. But what keeps
them together is that they fought the battles together, as a team. Ideally marriage
should last a lifetime, so we should choose our partner well and allow time to
prove who they truly are, only then a marriage can last. A close relationship,
no matter how hard the times may be, can never be moved. No third person can
intrude into the relationship if the relationship is strong, if both are in
love. But if they struggle to be in relationship just for the sake of it, it is
better to come out of the relationship and breathe some fresh air and move on.
Now
it is very obvious that the elderly couple who touched me were more than
lovers. They were friends. Looks will fade, trials will come but a genuine
friendship will carry the love to the
end.
